Relationship Savvy Classes
GOOD RELATIONSHIPS ARE GOOD CONTAINERS FOR THE SOUL
We mostly have a relationship with ourselves with others in the room.
Good relationships must be built from the ground up. And on that ground floor is you. The reality is that we mostly have a relationship with ourselves while other people are in the room. What this means is that if our self-relationship is unhealthy, so will be all of our other-directed relationships because we cannot give to others what we do not possess for ourselves. When we are secure and comfortable with who we are, we are poised for high-quality and satisfying relationships.
With a healthy self-foundation in place, good relationships are built upon the ability to be flexible and to compromise in a way that meets the needs of all parties involved. For example, getting our way may make us temporarily happy, but if we are making our partner or family miserable, this happiness is fleeting at best. Learning how to remain open to new experiences, new perspectives and new ways of living and being are essential ingredients for healthy relationships.
Relationship Savvy Course Components
These classes focus on the keys to building good relationships, starting with the relationship you have with yourself. Classes can be purchased as content-only (Solo Class) or with added support (Class Plus option). Class Plus format offers the following benefits:
A variety of 4-week classes.
Downloadable learning aids for classes.
Support forums for questions and peer support.
Small-group instructional coaching to keep learning on track (3 coach-led, 1 peer-led)
One private, 30-minute coaching session per month for individualized work.
Weekly open office hours for course questions.
Weekly mental fitness tips via mFIT blogs
Monthly mPACT with mFIT Guides.
For those who want maximum support, we also offer one membership option (Fast Track).
NOTE: All classes are 4 weeks as they are designed to be completed during a 30-day period. There may be multiple class units on the same topic (e.g., Self-Esteem 101; Self-Esteem 102, etc.), which means classes must be taken in order as higher level courses build upon the previous ones.
Level I Class Offerings
Browse and select classes below (or view class list). Level II & III Classes follow below.
Using Relationships as a Weapon
Recognizing Relational Aggression
Relational aggression is a phenomenon that has only been fully recognized in the last 20 years. In young males, conflict is often settled via physical altercations, but females tend to use withdrawal of acceptance, approval and social connection to bully peers into submission. As adolescents become young adults, however, both males and females may engage in relational aggression. Learn more about this negative behavior and how to avoid it. [View CLASS LIST]
The Joy of True Friendship
Developing High Quality Friendships
Because we are social animals, friendships play a vital role in healthy emotional development from an early age. From adolescence forward, the peer group is a primary source for social acceptance and approval. While this can be wonderful and is necessary for healthy socialization, it is also an opportunity for massive hurt and rejection when peers are cruel. This class explores what high-quality friendships look like in both giving and receiving. [View CLASS LIST]
Love Hungry and Hurt-Full
On the Wrong Side of Love
Everybody wants and needs to be loved. It is why in many ways the “couple” is the universal symbol of society because from it springs new life. Love is the call to procreate (or adopt) so that our lineage continues. But wounded people are often so love-hungry that their romantic choices leave them full of hurt and despair with a broken heart and a sad view of love. This class reviews our ideas and expectations of love and how to correct poor choices. [View CLASS LIST]
Unwieldy Expectations & Unruly Demands
Fatal Relationship Errors
We all know someone who seems to have terrible “luck” in relationships. Partners cheat on them, friends betray them, they are always passed over for the promotion … you know the drill. And while they clearly want healthy relationships and crave quality friendships, they just don’t seem to be able to make it happen. This class explores the hidden expectations we have that may be holding healthy relationships hostage. [View CLASS LIST]
For an Audience of One
Healthy Independence in Relationships
We all experience dependence in childhood when we cannot fend for ourselves. Depending on the quality of parenting we received, this dependence can be safe or dreadful, as dependence of any kind opens the potential for abuse. Beyond childhood, some inter-dependence (mutual) is healthy, but true dependence is not. While others add value to our lives, they should not define it. This class explores the value of healthy independence in the context of relationships. [View CLASS LIST]
Bar the Door & Banish the Violence
Leaving Destructive Relationships
One of the hardest things to witness is people who feel trapped in destructive relationships. These can be with family members, employers, friends or romantic partners. There may be physical violence, mental or verbal abuse or bullying involved. Regardless of the context or the particular type of mistreatment, it is crucial to find a way to exit these destructive relationships. This class examines why people remain and the psychological strength needed to leave them. [View CLASS LIST]
What Roles Do You Play?
As surprising as it may seem, gender stereotypes are alive and well. Whether male or female, if you find yourself in a constant struggle with your romantic partner over chores, responsibilities and gender-based expectations, you may want to explore the origin of your views. Such origins are deeply rooted in the manner in which we were raised and can be virtually undetectable unless probed. This class provides a platform for examining the roles you play and your gender-based biases and expectations. [View CLASS LIST]
Managing Workplace Relationships
Taking the High Road
For many, workplace relationships are a constant source of frustration. Favoritism by supervisors, unethical coworkers and gender inequality are facts of life in many workplace environments. In addition, upper management tactics and company policies can border on criminal, leading to anger, helpless and hopeless. This class offers some suggestions on taking the high road with your own behavior and how a change of perspective can be life-saving. [View CLASS LIST]
Power is the Greatest Test of Character
Power-down relationships are common: parents to children, teachers to students, employers to employees, wealthy to poor, etc. For the low man on the totem pole, humility is practically a requirement. But what happens in a position of power? The greatest test of any character is the receipt of power. This class examines the psychological and emotional maturity needed to wield power with fairness, compassion and genuine humility. [View CLASS LIST]
Relationships should ADD to your life, not TAKE from it.
“It seems like I’d always move from one bad relationship to another. It’s not that I wanted to be mistreated. I guess I’d just come to accept it. After taking several mental fitness classes and working with a coach, I realized that in a lot ways I was inviting the horrible relationships right to my front door. But not any more. I’ve sent a few bad boys packing and now have a good relationship with someone who respects me as much as I do him. What a relief to feel safe in being able to simply be who I am and not fear the consequences.”